Grief Goes Mainstream

Scott Berinato, in Harvard Business Review, recently wrote:

“Some of the HBR edit staff met virtually the other day — a screen full of faces in a scene becoming more common everywhere. We talked about the content we’re commissioning in this harrowing time of a pandemic and how we can help people. But we also talked about how we were feeling. One colleague mentioned that what she felt was grief. Heads nodded in all the panes.

If we can name it, perhaps we can manage it.”

Berinato goes on to interview David Kessler (see, a world authority on the grieving process, who co-wrote with Elisabeth Kübler-Ross “On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief through the Five Stages of Loss.”

It’s an excellent interview, really clear and readable, but it demonstrates just how “mainstream” this dark topic has become. To be emotionally conversant has increasingly been a requirement in the workplace, the so-called “soft skills” have gained weight in appraising an applicant’s suitability for work, alongside so-called “hard skills” that are expressed in standard measurements such as IQ.

Emotional Intelligence, EQ, however, is also gaining a harder edge, as we deal with a planetary upsurge of anxiety associated with the coronavirus pandemic. But Emotional (and/or Spiritual) Intelligence is not just about smoothing over our business dealings, it’s about facing the deepest issues and living life more fully. Crucially, it is about managing the most important questions, which all deal with change, death, clinging, loss, and grief.

On Friday, I am re-releasing a musical suite “Valley Of The Shadow – Rites Of Loss”, which was written 5 years ago as one response to these perennial issues. I feel like it’s time is now.

Here is a preview of “Cup Of Sorrow”:


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  1. Gerhard 06/04/2020 at 07:53 #

    Very relevant. I am deeply grateful and honoured to be considered as one of your listener’s . Well done

  2. Alan 06/04/2020 at 08:00 #

    Gentle and sublime; music and voices that enable the grieving and softens the pain at the same time. Gift for this holy week and gift for our times

  3. Joseph Koetsier 06/04/2020 at 09:59 #

    Beautiful and serene flow of emotions. I recently lost my partner and can strongly identify with the sentiments in this short piece.
    It has a mantric sense of loving repetition.
    Thanks for sharing.

  4. Allen Goddard 06/04/2020 at 18:42 #

    Thanks Nic, your music helps to turn the aloneness of grief towards solitude.

  5. Toinette 07/04/2020 at 08:29 #

    Very poignant Nic. I used this piece as part of my daily meditation, it’s so emotive. I am deeply moved and reminded of not only Christ’s grief but now at this time, our collective grief.

  6. Gabriela Mckellar 07/04/2020 at 14:36 #

    Very beautiful and timely.

  7. Andrew 08/04/2020 at 08:25 #

    A beautiful work that’s feeds the soul, especially relevant at this time.

  8. Ann 08/04/2020 at 13:21 #

    Exquisite. Powerfully emotive and skilled. A deep bow

  9. Nic 09/04/2020 at 15:26 #

    Thank you Nic. Very poignant and deeply relevant.

  10. Freda 21/04/2020 at 10:06 #

    A piece of pure beauty! Thank you for sharing.

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